Deborah Castellano

chrstphrmc: Christopher Mc for Masculine Romanticism PH -...

Fri, 24 May 2013 15:48:04 -0400

Christopher Mc for Masculine Romanticism
PH - Kieran Fenney

the color of low self esteem

Fri, 24 May 2013 15:47:22 -0400

what i never
learned
from my mother
was that
just because someone desires you
does
not mean they value you.
desire is the kind of thing that
eats you
and
leaves you starving.

girlmarauders: #no one hates twilight like the twilight cast

Fri, 24 May 2013 15:46:14 -0400

girlmarauders:

#no one hates twilight like the twilight cast

Black stags (@jowzeph)

Fri, 24 May 2013 15:38:49 -0400

Black stags (@jowzeph)

malformalady: The late morning fall air was just cool enough...

Fri, 24 May 2013 15:37:26 -0400

malformalady:

The late morning fall air was just cool enough that the sap weeping from the trees would solidify in mid flight… creating beautiful marbles of amber falling to the ground. Kingston Mills Water Locks - Kingston, Ontario, Canada.

Photo credit: © Jay Foulds/National Geographic Traveler Photo Contest)

"You mean the generation that paid three times as much for college to enter a job market with triple..."

Fri, 24 May 2013 15:34:44 -0400

“You mean the generation that paid three times as much for college to enter a job market with triple the unemployment isn’t interested in purchasing the assets of the generation who just blew an enormous housing bubble and kept it from popping through quantitative easing and out-and-out federal support? Curious.”

- When comments are better than the article, Atlantic edition (“The Cheapest Generation: Why Millennials arent’ buying cars or houses, and what that means for the economy”)

fyeahpocredcarpetfashion: Focus on the two ladies: Michelle...

Fri, 24 May 2013 15:33:14 -0400

fyeahpocredcarpetfashion:

Focus on the two ladies: Michelle Thrush, from the Cree Nation in Canada in the black dress; and Misty Upham from the Blackfeet Nation in the USA in a light dress. Misty says they are the first Native Americans to walk the Cannes red carpet. Also, the man right behind Misty is Puerto Rican actor Benicio del Toro. They are doing so for their movie Jimmy P. Psychotherapy of a Plains Indian

happicuppa: vidaypoesiaa: solarsaturation: ronpaulproblems: “...

Fri, 24 May 2013 15:32:03 -0400

happicuppa:

vidaypoesiaa:

solarsaturation:

ronpaulproblems:

“Old Economy Steve”

mad as hell

that fucker

oh hi dad.

God, I am trying so hard to create this at home but I keep just...

Fri, 24 May 2013 15:31:06 -0400

God, I am trying so hard to create this at home but I keep just killing moss and plants. >.< (@jowzeph)

gothiccharmschool:

Yes, I want to get some terrariums for my desk. Well, what I REALLY want is this Beetlejuice terrarium, but spending $315 + shipping is not an option.

Photo

Thu, 23 May 2013 14:00:51 -0400

sixorgans: Signe Vilstrup / “Ritual” / Treats

Thu, 23 May 2013 13:57:41 -0400

sixorgans:

Signe Vilstrup / “Ritual” / Treats

distortionparty: sending someone nudes is fun the first few times, but then eventually it’s...

Thu, 23 May 2013 13:57:08 -0400

distortionparty:

sending someone nudes is fun the first few times, but then eventually it’s like

and then you try to change it up all

jhahahahhahha

38 Wonderful Foreign Words We Could Use in English | Mental Floss

Thu, 23 May 2013 13:46:16 -0400

38 Wonderful Foreign Words We Could Use in English | Mental Floss:

tessaracked:

Sometimes we must turn to other languages to find le mot juste. Here are a whole bunch of foreign words with no direct English equivalent.

1. Kummerspeck (German)
Excess weight gained from emotional overeating. Literally, grief bacon.

2. Shemomedjamo (Georgian)
You know when you’re really full, but your meal is just so delicious, you can’t stop eating it? The Georgians feel your pain. This word means, “I accidentally ate the whole thing.”

3. Tartle (Scots)
The nearly onomatopoeic word for that panicky hesitation just before you have to introduce someone whose name you can’t quite remember.

4. Mamihlapinatapai (Yaghan language of Tierra del Fuego)
This word captures that special look shared between two people, when both are wishing that the other would do something that they both want, but neither want to do.

5. Backpfeifengesicht (German)
A face badly in need of a fist.

6. Iktsuarpok (Inuit)
You know that feeling of anticipation when you’re waiting for someone to show up at your house and you keep going outside to see if they’re there yet? This is the word for it.

7. Pelinti (Buli, Ghana)
Your friend bites into a piece of piping hot pizza, then opens his mouth and sort of tilts his head around while making an “aaaarrrahh” noise. The Ghanaians have a word for that. More specifically, it means “to move hot food around in your mouth.”

8. Greng-jai (Thai)
That feeling you get when you don’t want someone to do something for you because it would be a pain for them.

9. Mencolek (Indonesian)
You know that old trick where you tap someone lightly on the opposite shoulder from behind to fool them? The Indonesians have a word for it.

10. Faamiti (Samoan)
To make a squeaking sound by sucking air past the lips in order to gain the attention of a dog or child.

11. Gigil (Filipino)
The urge to pinch or squeeze something that is irresistibly cute.

12. Yuputka (Ulwa)
A word made for walking in the woods at night, it’s the phantom sensation of something crawling on your skin.

13. Zhaghzhagh (Persian)
The chattering of teeth from the cold or from rage.

14. Vybafnout (Czech)
A word tailor-made for annoying older brothers—it means to jump out and say boo.

15. Fremdschämen (German); Myötähäpeä (Finnish)
The kindler, gentler cousins of Schadenfreude, both these words mean something akin to “vicarious embarrassment.”

16. Lagom (Swedish)
Maybe Goldilocks was Swedish? This slippery little word is hard to define, but means something like, “Not too much, and not too little, but juuuuust right.”

17. Pålegg (Norweigian)
Sandwich Artists unite! The Norwegians have a non-specific descriptor for anything – ham, cheese, jam, Nutella, mustard, herring, pickles, Doritos, you name it – you might consider putting into a sandwich.

18. Layogenic (Tagalog)
Remember in Clueless when Cher describes someone as “a full-on Monet…from far away, it’s OK, but up close it’s a big old mess”? That’s exactly what this word means.

19. Bakku-shan (Japanese)
Or there’s this Japanese slang term, which describes the experience of seeing a woman who appears pretty from behind but not from the front.

20. Seigneur-terraces (French)
Coffee shop dwellers who sit at tables a long time but spend little money.

21. Ya’arburnee (Arabic)
This word is the hopeful declaration that you will die before someone you love deeply, because you cannot stand to live without them. Literally, may you bury me.

22. Pana Po’o (Hawaiian)
“Hmm, now where did I leave those keys?” he said, pana po’oing. It means to scratch your head in order to help you remember something you’ve forgotten.

23. Slampadato (Italian)
Addicted to the UV glow of tanning salons? This word describes you.

24. Zeg (Georgian)
It means “the day after tomorrow.” OK, we do have “overmorrow” in English, but when was the last time someone used that?

25. Cafune (Brazilian Portuguese)
Leave it to the Brazilians to come up with a word for “tenderly running your fingers through your lover’s hair.”

26. Koi No Yokan (Japanese)
The sense upon first meeting a person that the two of you are going to fall in love.

27. Kaelling (Danish)
You know that woman who stands on her doorstep (or in line at the supermarket, or at the park, or in a restaurant) cursing at her children? The Danes know her, too.

28. Boketto (Japanese)
It’s nice to know that the Japanese think enough of the act of gazing vacantly into the distance without thinking to give it a name.

29. L’esprit de l’escalier (French)
Literally, stairwell wit—a too-late retort thought of only after departure.

30. Cotisuelto (Caribbean Spanish)
A word that would aptly describe the prevailing fashion trend among American men under 40, it means one who wears the shirt tail outside of his trousers.

31. Packesel (German)
The packesel is the person who’s stuck carrying everyone else’s bags on a trip. Literally, a burro.

32. Hygge (Danish)
Denmark’s mantra, hygge is the pleasant, genial, and intimate feeling associated with sitting around a fire in the winter with close friends.

33. Cavoli Riscaldati (Italian)
The result of attempting to revive an unworkable relationship. Translates to “reheated cabbage.”

34. Bilita Mpash (Bantu)
An amazing dream. Not just a “good” dream; the opposite of a nightmare.

35. Litost (Czech)
Milan Kundera described the emotion as “a state of torment created by the sudden sight of one’s own misery.”

36. Luftmensch (Yiddish)
There are several Yiddish words to describe social misfits. This one is for an impractical dreamer with no business sense.

37 & 38. Schlemiel and schlimazel (Yiddish)
Someone prone to bad luck. Yiddish distinguishes between the schlemiel and schlimazel, whose fates would probably be grouped under those of the klutz in other languages. The schlemiel is the traditional maladroit, who spills his coffee; the schlimazel is the one on whom it’s spilled.

dailyotter: Otter Tries to Figure Out Human’s Camera...

Thu, 23 May 2013 13:40:49 -0400

dailyotter:

Otter Tries to Figure Out Human’s Camera Equipment

Via Beginners’ Blog Otter

nomoremilkies: just sayin talking bout “imma get a gun” shit.

Thu, 23 May 2013 13:39:10 -0400

nomoremilkies:

just sayin

talking bout “imma get a gun”

shit.

thebkwyrm: orangewithaface: NINE’S FACE IN THAT THIRD GIF...

Thu, 23 May 2013 13:37:03 -0400

thebkwyrm:

orangewithaface:

NINE’S FACE IN THAT THIRD GIF OMG

Oh, Nine.

The Problem with 'Boys Will Be Boys'

Thu, 23 May 2013 13:36:29 -0400

The Problem with 'Boys Will Be Boys':

thebkwyrm:

For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.

No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “Invasion of AstroMonster.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:

“You know! Boys will be boys!”

“He’s just going through a phase!”

“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”

“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”

“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”

I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”

She built a beautiful, glittery castle in a public space.

It was so tempting.

He just couldn’t control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations.

She had to keep her building safe.

Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a big fuss when he knocked it down. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.

His desire — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.

Maybe she “shouldn’t have gone to preschool” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.

I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “don’t rape.”

Not once did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning. How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?

There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it his mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.

There was a third child. He was really smart. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but only after she was done building it and said it was OK. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.

Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, mad at an ex-girlfriend who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respecte, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”

The “overarching attitudinal characteristic” of abusive men is entitlement.

Ye, yes, yes. I see this attitude all the time, as the mother of daughters.

[Blast From the Past] I don't have the gift of the prophecy . . .5.22.02

Wed, 22 May 2013 20:03:33 -0400

Editor’s note: This all is still very good valid advice. Except maybe the part about my mom’s house but no one ever expects the global economic collapse/Spanish inquisition. Also, B. seems pretty sure that only my mom *or* I could have survived my 20s living together. She’s known me since I was eight so I tend to think she’s right. Also, wow. Boys and girls were very flattering to me when I was 23. Who knew that one day the world would not be an endless stream of praise cakes? Not me. Not me.

Also, I’ve learned that even when I land on my ass, I do it like a cat. (Totally meant to do that! *Pose!*)

Quotes of the last day or two:

* “Let it go, small sparrow.” (from a coworker re: a bizarre fortune cookie fortune that made too much sense)

* “She needs you more than you need her and that’s how you’ll get the upper hand. Besides, you’re a sexy bitch so you’ll be fine.”

* “If I was your exboyfriend, I’d be having a nervous breakdown too. I don’t think I could bear once having you and then not, it would feel like being Adam and getting thrown out of Eden.”

* “But you learned never to be that young and stupid again.” (another coworker)

* “You will be fun and suave and you can sit in my lap.”

* “Don’t worry about it, just do it. You will never say to yourself, ‘I wished I stayed longer in my mother’s house.’”

* “My fun dancing polar bear zen kitten of spooky doom.”

* “Anything less than extrodinary isn’t worth doing.” (from Dreams for an Insomniac)

* “It’s not owning what you want/ it’s wanting what you got.”

More to come soon! The wheel is spinning, I feel it. The only question is will i land like a cat or on my ass?

Letters to Myself

Wed, 22 May 2013 19:58:03 -0400

Dear Deb,

Listening to the live version of The #Decemberists’ “We Both Go Down Together” with the extra Morrissey cover at the end during your shark week is very definitely the dumbest thing you’ve done today.

Pull your shit together, you have a blog entry to write.

No love,

Deb

kisskicker: Prince Gumball’s path to the throne was brutal....

Tue, 21 May 2013 11:00:02 -0400

kisskicker:

Prince Gumball’s path to the throne was brutal. Fionna wasn’t around during the Sugar Wars; Gumball distracts her by acting super bland and wearing disco pants.

Marshall Lee knows the truth, but as Chaotic Neutral, he just can’t bring himself to give a shit.

ETA: Nhyworks just gave me the amazing pun ‘Game of Scones.’ Brb dying ok.